Dear Abby: My sons wonderful girlfriend cant afford a graduation gown should I buy one for her?
DEAR ABBY: My son, who is in his senior year of high school, is dating a beautiful, sweet girl I’ll call “Amanda.” I’m very fond of her.This is an exciting year for them both because soon she will be shopping for her graduation gown.
Amanda told me her mom has said she will have to wear her older sister’s dress.(Her sister graduated seven years ago.) Finances are tight for their family.
I asked Amanda how she feels about it, and she isn’t happy. I would love to buy her a gown.I remember being in high school and how exciting it was to be able to buy a new gown.
My daughter is two years older and says that soon the girls in school will be talking about shopping for their new gowns.I really want this experience for Amanda. The problem is, I don’t want to offend her or her mother with my offer.
Should I stay out of this? Should I approach her mother? I have met her mom only a couple of times, and I don’t want to step on any toes.Even if my son and Amanda are not together by the time graduation happens, I would still want her to have a dress of her choosing and all the experiences that come with it.
— OFFERING ASSISTANCE IN CANADADEAR OFFERING: You are a caring, thoughtful, generous woman.However, the subject of Amanda’s family’s finances is sure to be a delicate one.
Do not discuss this with Amanda yet.Consider reaching out “mother-to-mother” and explaining that Amanda mentioned she might be wearing her sister’s dress for graduation. Explain to Mom that you care about Amanda, and suggest that if she would allow it, you would love to take them both to lunch and to shop for a dress she might like.
Tell her you would like that to be your graduation gift to Amanda or, if this is something she’d prefer to be just between the two of you adults, you would reimburse her for the expense.Then cross your fingers.
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