College students kitchen request sparks viral online debate: It felt kind of entitled

A Reddit user was irked when a friend of his girlfriend asked if she could come over to their place “just to use our kitchen.”“I barely know her, and it’s not like it’s an emergency,” user “Pikachu930” wrote recently on a Reddit forum. “But what made it even weirder is that my girlfriend told me we should feel honored that her friend asked us instead of someone else.That rubbed me the wrong way – it felt kind of entitled, like we’re supposed to say yes out of flattery?”The friend also lives in a dorm and has a meal plan, said the Reddit writer. “It’s not like she doesn’t have options,” he wrote.

“She just suddenly wanted to cook something and decided her dorm kitchen was too gross.”What also bothered the person on Reddit was that “this wasn’t a social request at all.”“It wasn’t like, ‘Hey, want to cook together sometime?’ or ‘Could we hang out and cook?'” Pikachu930 wrote. “It was literally, ‘Can I use your kitchen to cook my own food?’ That’s it.No invitation to connect or spend time together – just a one-way request to use our space.”The man shared that he uses the kitchen “99% of the time.”“I do almost all the cooking and the dishes, so it feels like my personal space in the house,” he continued. “It’s not just a shared utility room to me.

It’s where I do something I actually enjoy and take care of both of us.So letting someone else use it, especially someone I don’t know well, isn’t something I’m automatically cool with.”His girlfriend, however, told him he was “overreacting and being rude about her friend.”He wondered if he was being overly sensitive about it, adding that he would have been OK with it if it were a one-time request.

Yet the friend wanted to use the kitchen “for a whole week, including sharing our refrigerator space,” to cook foods like chicken breast and avocado toast.Stay up on the very latest with Evening Update.

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