Dear Abby: My fiancee is an alcoholic its ruining my life

DEAR ABBY: My fiancee and I have been arguing almost every day.We have been verbally and emotionally hurting each other.

I love her very much, but she has a severe alcohol disorder, and I want her to stop drinking.She keeps begging me for money whenever she runs out of her own.

She wants me to buy her more alcohol, but I refuse.She has been mean and abusive to the people she loves, including me.I suffer from anxiety and depression and see a therapist to deal with my mental health.

My therapist suggested that my fiancee and I have couples counseling, but we are on a waiting list.I am also looking into attending Al-Anon meetings for support.

I don’t know what else to do to save my relationship.Please help.

— DEPRESSED IN NEW YORKDEAR DEPRESSED: Between you and your therapist, I’d say you have your ducks pretty well in a row.Because you and your alcoholic fiancee are wait-listed for couples counseling, start getting more of the emotional support you need by attending those Al-Anon meetings.

Dealing with an angry, manipulative addict can be soul-crushing.Joining that community will give you insight and perspective. Please remember that saving your relationship isn’t a solo effort.

At some point, your fiancee must decide which to choose: her drinking or you.If she can’t give up the bottle, you may need to save yourself.

I am glad you have a therapist.DEAR ABBY: I’m 45 years old and have a friend from the military I’ve known for more than 25 years.A couple of years ago, he asked to move into my one-bedroom apartment to help him deal with retirement and straighten out his bills, debt and child support.

I agreed because I had started working on the road and wasn’t in a relationship.He sleeps on the couch, and I’m fine with that.

He also helps with half the rent and the utility bill. The problem is, when I come home from the road, I find he hasn’t cleaned AT ALL.He keeps my place very dirty.

The AC is filthy, the bathroom is moldy and messy f...