Exclusive | We schedule sex and its wildly improved our marriage its the glue that keeps us close but theres an added benefit

Jay and Sofia Lyons set a date to mate.Scheduling sex, designating a few days each week to do the do.It’s served as the “glue” that’s kept the Upper West Side couple happily hitched for over 31 years. “It’s made our relationship one million times better,” Jay, an Emmy-winning director and producer, told The Post.

“It’s the glue that keeps your marriage close — it’s very difficult to have a bad marriage when you’re regularly having sex.”He and Sofia, both in their early 50s, began scheduling shags shortly after tying the knot and welcoming two kids in the early 1990s.The pair is among the 14% of husbands and wives whose sex lives thrive on a regimen, per recent findings via virtual wedding hub The Knot. Jenna Bush Hager recently admitted to penciling in the deed and Amy Schumer said she does the same.Meanwhile, Nick and Vanessa Lachey picked “Wednesday — hump day” as their romp ritual.“It makes your spouse feel appreciated and special,” said Sofia, a professional singer, adding that she likes leaving cutesy Post-it note reminders and risqué coupons for Jay ahead of their spicy rendezvous. “It might sound silly,” she conceded, “but if something is special to you, you schedule it.”And while penciling in hanky-panky might seem unsexy, lacking spiciness and spontaneity, Virgina Sadock, director of the human sexuality program at NYU Langone Health, assures that it’s not.   “Spontaneity is not the only way to have good sex,” Sadock told The Post, noting that those hot-to-trot impromptu romps in R-rated rom-coms are rare in reality — especially for duos with demanding careers, children or elderly parents. “Most couples very often schedule sex — whether they know it or not,” she added. It’s counting down until the kids are out at a sleepover or busy season at work finally ends. Unmarried sweethearts even preplan their XXX playdates. Some set their watches for that all-important “third date,” while ot...