Dear Abby: My husband ditched me for his friends after I got surgery

DEAR ABBY: My husband works out of state for an oil rigging company 20 days out of the month.He gets 10 days off.

When he comes home, we may have two days of quality time together.The rest of his time he spends on his phone outside. When I recently had spinal surgery, he came home supposedly to assist me.

My doctor gave him instructions to follow after the surgery.The first was that he observe me for 24 hours to avert any complications.

Well, after a few hours, he left me alone so he could spend time with his friends! I was sleeping when he left, and when I woke up, I was in pain. When I called him and asked where he was, he, as usual, got upset and said, “I can’t spend time with my friends?” I replied, “No problem” and hung up the phone.He returned two hours later, and we discussed it, but he left the house again.

I don’t know how to communicate with him without causing issues.What should I do? Am I wrong? — WIFE OF DETACHED HUSBANDDEAR WIFE: You are not wrong.

What you need to do now is take some time and evaluate the relationship you have with your husband.From what you have written, you are both spending the majority of your time living as single people. Your husband is clearly not the nurturing type, and it would be interesting to know how he’d react if the situation were reversed and you had skipped out to socialize with your buddies.

I won’t use the word that comes to mind to describe your “better half” but, frankly, I think you could have done better in the spouse department.You have my sympathy.DEAR ABBY: I am a 59-year-old man.

I have been single since my wife left me.I have been trying to get back on my feet financially and emotionally since the divorce.

I agreed to the terms without a lawyer.I agreed to accept a small sum so she could buy me out of the house we had owned for 23 years.

I am going to be fine, and, at some point, I will ease back into dating. Because I have a chronic cough, I was assigned a specialist nurs...