Dear Abby: My wife and I havent been intimate for eight years Im thinking about cheating

DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married for 28 years but have not been intimate with my wife for the last eight of them.It all came to a halt when we prioritized raising our (four) children.

We had been intimate on a regular basis for 20 years until it slowly faded and then stopped.I have tried pretty much everything and had many conversations with my wife; nothing has changed.I haven’t tried counseling because I don’t think she would go for it.

Any advice? I feel like I’m out of options.I don’t want to stray, but I feel I’m being pulled to do so.

— LESS HAPPY IN PENNSYLVANIADEAR LESS HAPPY: Tell your wife that eight years is long enough for a married man to remain celibate, and ask which she would prefer — marriage counseling or a divorce.Cheating is not the answer.

There are remedies for a lapsed libido, but none can be explored if the two of you aren’t communicating.DEAR ABBY: My son is getting married next year.He and his future wife are extremely religious.

My daughter (his sister) is also engaged — to a wonderful woman.Because of my daughter’s lesbian relationship, my son does not plan to invite his sister’s fiancee to the wedding, saying their values don’t align.

(If he didn’t feel obligated, he wouldn’t invite his sister either.) I am devastated by this.This is disrespectful to my daughter and her fiancee.

What are your thoughts? — DIVIDED MOM IN NEW YORKDEAR MOM: I am sorry for your pain.My “thought” is that your son’s religious convictions have already created a rift in the family.

Of course this is disrespectful to his sister and her fiancee, but this is how your son intends to live the rest of his life.Personally, I think your daughter should politely refuse the invitation if she receives one.

Looking forward, you must prepare to socialize separately with her and her future wife and their friends, who will comprise their “chosen” family.DEAR ABBY: I’m about a month away from officially adopting my 7-year-...