Somewhere along the way, "swipe right if you're 5 feet 10 inches or taller" turned into "swipe left if you didn't vote the way I wanted." I don't know exactly when the dating profile became a place to list your positions on foreign policy, but if you've opened Hinge or Bumble in any major city lately, you already know what I'm talking about.Scroll through profiles in New York, D.C.or L.A., and you'll see it instantly.
And it's not just one side of the dating pool.Before she tells you her job or what she's looking for, she's told you her pronouns, there's a Palestinian flag next to "no fascists," and somewhere in there, usually bolded, is some version of "if you voted for Trump, don't bother."The guys aren't any different.
Feminist ally bios, "will not date a Republican," a picture holding a sign from the last protest he went to, the same pronoun-in-bio energy, just with a beard.Walk through 20 profiles in a blue city, male or female, and count how many treat their politics like a personality.AI IS CHANGING MODERN DATING, BUT EXPERTS WARN IT'S MAKING PEOPLE 'RELATIONALLY STUPID'I'm a psychotherapist, and I've spent close to two decades listening to people talk about their relationships, what's working, what isn't and why they picked who they picked.
And I can tell you: None of this is about values.It's about performance.
A sign that says "no MAGA" isn't screening for character.It's screening for an audience.Here's what's actually funny about it: A recent SSRS survey found that more than half of Democrats who use dating apps say sharing political beliefs is very important when picking a match.
For Republicans and independents, it's about a quarter.So, one side has turned swiping into a loyalty oath, and the other side is just trying to find someone who'll text back.I've watched couples who agree on every political issue under the sun sit across from each other, miserable, because agreeing on Gaza or student loan forgiveness did absolutely nothing to improve how ...