Dear Abby: Ive finally had enough of my abusive wife after nearly 40 years

DEAR ABBY: I’m a college junior in need of advice.I share an apartment with two other female students, “Wendy” and “Lauren,” who roomed together before I met them.

Wendy is sweet and easygoing, but she grew up in a rural area and seems very sheltered.For example, she can’t swim and thinks that eating shrimp is exotic, but she likes to clog dance and play the mandolin.

She has never mentioned having a boyfriend or even dating.We are completely different, but until recently we got along well.A few weeks ago, Wendy asked me to go with her to hear a bluegrass band at a club near campus.

By 11 p.m., I was ready to leave, so she drove me to our nearby apartment and said she was going back to keep listening to the band.I woke up around 4 a.m.

(long after the club had closed) and realized that Wendy hadn’t come home.I was freaked out and tried to call her but discovered that she had left her cellphone at the apartment.

I went looking for her (in my car) all over campus and anywhere else I thought she might be.I seriously considered calling the police.However, when Lauren got home around 8 a.m., she said, “Oh, Wendy has done this before.

She probably hooked up with some guy.I should have warned you.” Then Wendy rolled in all starry-eyed about this “great guy” she had slept with, who was a stranger she knew only as “Joe.” Wendy was unapologetic about the distress she had caused me by disappearing and staying out all night.

I was exhausted and furious.When she wondered out loud whether “Joe” would be calling her, I snapped, “Why would he? He’s probably sober by now.” However, I’m now wondering if I am the sheltered one.

Am I being judgmental, and was my concern for Wendy’s well-being an overreaction? — NERVOUS IN NORTH CAROLINADEAR NERVOUS: You now know that Wendy is not as unworldly as you originally thought.It is regrettable that you weren’t told how well she gets along with other fans of bluegrass, but now you know.

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