Men roasted for how they interact with their friends: The lack of curiosity is alarming

Men don’t know how to ask questions. At least that’s what a trove of women are saying online as they post about their partner’s lack of follow-up questions. Here’s the crux of what’s happening — men will tell their girlfriends or wives an incredible story about their close friend or coworker, and when the woman has a very natural follow-up question, the man has no answer. Consider this micro-conversation between a TikToker and her boyfriend.The woman says, “Your friend and his girlfriend broke up after 10 years of being together, what happened?” She went on to ask a few more follow-ups like “Did someone cheat, did he say what the reason was or who broke up with whom?”The man responds, “I don’t know actually… He just told me ‘It’s done and I’m free to golf this weekend.’”This simple interaction — and thousands of others like it — has become so familiar in couples that it’s now a TikTok trend dubbed “POV: Men.” Wives and girlfriends are even baiting their spouses so they can post about it online. So we are asking the question — is this just another silly TikTok trend, or is there something else happening? The Post spoke with Dr.Maritsa Yzaguirre-Kelley, a Florida-based counselor with over 25 years of psychology experience, who told us — look to the man brain.“It’s neurological before it’s personal,” Dr.

Yzaguirre-Kelley told The Post.“When many men retell an experience, they encode and retrieve the gist — the headline, the outcome, whether it was good or bad.”Their female partners, however, are listening for something else — sequence, motive and emotional detail.

The parts that Dr.Yzaguirre-Kelley says never got stored in men’s brains. According to the licensed mental health counselor, working memory plays a role too. “A detail that isn’t rehearsed or emotionally tagged in the moment tends not to make it into long-term memory, so when the follow-up question comes, it has nowhere to land ...