Dear Abby: My daughter called the cake I made for her birthday stupid

DEAR ABBY: My 40-year-old daughter is on weight-loss injections and a no-sugar diet.I offered to bake her a sugar-free cheesecake, and she agreed, but she asked me to make a “tester” cake three days before.

I explained that the cake has a lengthy preparation process, involving a very slow bake in a water bath and 12 hours chill time.I suggested she wait, but she insisted, so I made it early.

She cut a slice of it and exclaimed how great it tasted. Three days later, I baked and decorated a carrot cake to use as her “official” birthday cake, since the sugar-free cake had been cut and wouldn’t look nice in photos.(Carrot is her children’s favorite.) I hosted everyone at an expensive restaurant, gave her French perfume and a weekend getaway.When we returned from the dinner, my daughter angrily said, “Get in here so we can cut this stupid cake, which I can’t eat!” I was shocked and confused.

She said I shouldn’t have made a cake of a flavor she dislikes, but I pointed out that she had the sugar-free cake, too.Apparently, she had expected me to bake a second sugar-free cheesecake.

I chewed her out for being ungrateful.Was I wrong? — UNAPPRECIATED IN CALIFORNIADEAR UNAPPRECIATED: I was under the impression that shots for weight loss curbed one’s appetite for sweets (and alcoholic beverages as well).

Your daughter appears to have an insatiable sweet tooth, sugar-free or not.What she was angling for was two cheesecakes rather than one.

Her attitude is entitled and ungrateful, and she should be ashamed of herself.I wish her luck keeping off the weight she loses, because her chances aren’t great with that attitude.DEAR ABBY: I became friends with “Brenda” some years ago.

We enjoy each other’s friendship and have many interests in common.My problem is that a year into our friendship, she confided she had a son who was in prison for a crime I cannot morally forgive.

Because he was in prison, I didn’t see a problem with continuing our fr...