Dear Abby: How do I tell a woman her gym leggings are transparent?
DEAR ABBY: My fitness center has three rows of treadmills and ellipticals.One woman usually selects the front row.
Like many in the gym, she wears tight leggings, which is fine.However, hers are stretched so thin across her buttocks that the fabric is semi-transparent.
Although this is unsightly, it is not a huge deal to me, and I simply don’t look her way. I wonder, though, if folks would generally prefer that someone gently mention tricky issues like this to them.It reminds me of seeing someone with toilet paper stuck on a shoe or a skirt hem stuck in the waistline.
— LOOKING THE OTHER WAYDEAR LOOKING: I’m glad you asked before trying to be helpful.In a case like this, it would be better to keep looking the other way rather than address your fellow gym rat.
I don’t know what the dress code may be at your gym, but if you have a question about it, you should ask the manager.DEAR ABBY: I’m a man in my early 30s who has made a career switch.My new field requires me to be more social because I will be meeting with colleagues, some of them older than I am, and attending trade shows, meetings, and business and social networking outings.
This was never part of my former job.I’m somewhat shy, and I can be uneasy in conversations.I don’t always know what to say if there is a break in the conversation.
A relative told me you have tips on how to navigate conversing with all kinds of people in different situations.If they are still available, it would be useful for me.
— GEARING UP IN WASHINGTON, D.C.DEAR GEARING UP: Your relative may have been referring to my booklet “How to Be Popular,” which is still in print.I will send you a copy.
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