Dear Abby: How do I tell my 40-year-old son he needs to get a job and move out?

DEAR ABBY: My son has trouble telling the truth.He was getting up late, dressing for work, leaving and coming back early.

When my husband and I asked him about having a job, he said he had one.When we asked him to show us his paycheck, he fumbled around on his phone, then he confessed that he had no job.

He said he has been at the library looking for work.This isn’t the first time my son has lied to us.He agreed to counseling.

He is good to us and he is kind, but he lies.He is in his 40s now.

Help! How do we live with a liar? — CAN’T BELIEVE HIM IN CALIFORNIADEAR CAN’T BELIEVE: Assuming that your son isn’t penniless, where has he been getting money? If it is from you and your husband, it’s time to stop.That may give him an incentive to look harder for employment.

While you are at it, give him a date after which he must have found other lodging, and stick to it.A counselor may be able to help your son with his problem telling the truth, but it is long past time that you stopped living with it.DEAR ABBY: I am 29 and on the autism spectrum, and I live with my parents.

I work a full-time job I enjoy and help my folks out financially wherever I can, but my life feels like it is at a dead end.I have wanted to go back to college, but I often wonder if it’s even worth it anymore.On top of that, my two best friends abandoned me, and I can’t shake off my loneliness.

I want to be successful and meet new people, but I have no idea what to do or where to go from here.Is there still hope? — LOST CAUSE IN GEORGIADEAR LOST CAUSE: You are only 29! If you think that furthering your education will enhance your career opportunities, avail yourself of the opportunity.

You are single and don’t have children to support, so this is the time to go for it.As to your loneliness, you are socially isolated right now.Getting out and into activities that interest you will enhance your chances of meeting like-minded people.

You may be depressed, but you are NOT a lost ...