Beware of unsettling red-flag compliments early in dating, expert warns, as most women agree its just love-bombing to get them into bed
Kind words can go a long way, but when it comes to dating, not every compliment is sincere — sometimes it’s a red flag.A new survey by Hily dating app found that more than half of young American women believe that too many compliments early on feels like a red flag.Half of the women surveyed admitted that they’ve brushed off a compliment on a date because it made them feel uncomfortable.Even with positive intentions, a flattering remark can come off as wrong if it feels too personal or objectifying too soon.“Compliments can feel like a red flag early on because you haven’t had the time to fully see each other yet.
When the praise comes on too strong or too fast, it can feel more like projection than truth,” Julie Nguyen, certified dating coach at Hily, told The Post.What’s meant to be romantic can often come off as rehearsed, strategic or excessive, especially when the connection hasn’t had time to naturally flourish, and many on social media have classified this behavior as classic love-bombing.One Reddit user shared that she had only been talking to a guy for one day, and in that time, he already complimented her eyes, called her pretty, and commented on her wit, which she said made her self-conscious.“I’ve been chatting with this guy since only yesterday.We got along really well, so we ended up talking for a few hours, but he seemed to get more intense over time,” the person wrote.
“[He] mentioned that he loves how we already have an inside joke, and ended with saying that again, he already likes me.“It always fit in the context, but I’ve been growing uncomfortable.I said something polite back to the first two remarks, but since then I’ve been completely ignoring the compliments, hoping he’d get the hint.
He didn’t,” they continued.“At this point, I want to tell him to slow down, but now I’m thinking: could this be a red flag?”To many, receiving too many compliments too soon is a sign of ulterior motives, and 73% of w...