Dear Abby: I desperately want an intimate relationship with my wife

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married for 20 years and have three kids: 19 (in college), 17 and 15.My wife and I sleep in separate beds and haven’t had sex in more than five years – her choice, not mine.

We tried counseling in the past but never got anywhere.My wife is not investing in our relationship and isn’t interested in seeking outside help.At this point, I’m in it for the kids and my faith in God.

I long to be in an intimate relationship.I feel incredibly lonely and have a growing resentment toward my wife.I work two jobs; she stays at home – doing what, I can’t tell you.

She’s resistant to going to work.I’m afraid of the crash and burn of a divorce and how it would impact my children and my career.

Please advise.— DESPERATE FOR HELP IN PENNSYLVANIADEAR DESPERATE: Your wife may not be interested in getting outside help for your marital difficulties, but you definitely should.

If you do, it will help you to clarify your thinking and decide how to rationally handle the next steps.From where I sit, your marriage died five years ago, and you shouldn’t have to live the way you have been.DEAR ABBY: My husband’s sister “Jewel” and her husband sometimes make condescending comments and embarrass me.

Most recently, I held a family get-together at my house and prepared lots of food for it.Great meal and great time had by all.Her husband came in late, walked past every dish and announced there was nothing there he liked.

He then told Jewel, “Let’s go and pick up KFC.I’m hungry!” Jewel didn’t go, but she looked at me and said to the crowd, “Oh, my dear, you were cooking a lot.

I’m so proud of you!” Neither one ate anything, but everyone else loved it.There are some people you just don’t like to be around.How do I avoid inviting these people to my house or anywhere? — HAD IT IN FLORIDADEAR HAD IT: Because Jewel is your husband’s sister, you may not be able to avoid them entirely.

However, because the issue seems to be with ...