Dear Abby: My cheating ex-husband died am I wrong for skipping his funeral?
DEAR ABBY: After a nearly 20-year marriage, my first husband, “Lloyd,” told me his feelings for me had changed.He said we needed “some time apart,” but he didn’t want a divorce.
He immediately went to a lawyer and executed a financial settlement for me, still insisting he wasn’t going to file for divorce.Six weeks later, I bought a house and moved.
Two weeks later, Lloyd’s son told me my husband moved a woman in with him two days after I moved out.Obviously, we divorced.In time, I remarried and was very happy for 13 years until my husband died.
I took care of him for the last three years.A year later, my older brother became ill, and I went to help him 300 miles away.
It also turned into a nearly three-year stay.I have been back home for only a year and a half now.I just received a text from a friend of Lloyd’s, telling me Lloyd has passed away.
None of Lloyd’s family contacted me, nor did they let me know his brother had died a while back.I have been so hurt by this man.
After I moved, he told many lies.He said that I had been cheating, etc., and literally turned the whole community against me.
When the true story came out, a lot of people apologized for treating me so badly. I feel indifference toward my ex.The bad memories with him far outweigh the good ones, and I don’t want to go to his funeral.
It would feel two-faced because I lost all respect for him many years ago.Am I wrong for not acknowledging his death? — MOVING ON IN THE SOUTHDEAR MOVING ON: You certainly are not wrong.
People attend funerals in order to pay their respects and emotionally support the grieving family.Your presence is not required at this one.
Lloyd’s family would not welcome it, and neither would the woman who helped to break up your marriage.On that day, do something you would enjoy, ideally with friends who support you.** ** **DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, my mother bought a pair of diamond earrings for us to split.
She wears one every day, and I wear t...