Dear Abby: I dont see any point in meeting my daughters sister from the same mister
DEAR ABBY: I have been widowed for seven years.My husband served in the Air Force in Saigon during the conflict in Vietnam.
We met and married shortly after he returned from his hitch overseas.We had two daughters together. Recently, my older daughter was notified through social media that she has a half-sister, “Leiba,” from a woman her father knew in Vietnam.
They agreed to meet this weekend for lunch at a local restaurant. My daughter asked if I would accompany her to this meeting.I told her that while I had no qualms about finding out he had a child with another woman, I didn’t see any point in my being there to meet her.
There is no connection there for me, and I would feel uncomfortable in the situation.Am I wrong for not going with my daughters to this luncheon? — UNRELATED IN SOUTH CAROLINADEAR UNRELATED: Although you feel no connection to your late husband’s love child, Leiba is related to your daughters.
If they choose to develop a relationship with their half-sister, you cannot ignore her existence forever.Your daughters may be asking for your support.
If you decide to go, do it for them.DEAR ABBY: My son and his partner have lived together for more than 10 years.During this time, his partner’s parents and sister have visited my state numerous times.
They have stayed at my lake house, in my condo and another home I own.Yet, in all this time, I have never met them (and I have tried to). Only once did I receive a thank-you note on my mantle at one of my homes.
When they come into town, it’s almost like they deliberately avoid meeting me.Is this something I should address with my son and his partner? At this point, I feel hurt.
— USED IN THE MIDWESTDEAR USED: Should you address this with your son and his partner? Of course you should.In fact, you should have done it the first time you were asked to let these people live in one of your dwellings.
Do you really want to continue having strangers vacation in your homes? Because that�...