Dear Abby: Im suprised you didnt tell the wedding couple to stand their ground against their mothers
DEAR ABBY: I respectfully disagree with your response to “Woman’s wedding has been hijacked.” These mothers have no business trying to co-opt the bridal couple’s wedding.If the daughter gives in, it’s only the beginning of these two mothers trying to strong-arm themselves into trying to make future decisions for this poor couple. The couple should put their feet down and tell these mothers to back off.
It’s their wedding, the only one (hopefully) they’ll ever have, and, if they cave to these mothers’ incipient narcissism at the expense of their wedding plans, they’ll all regret it (including these mothers) for the rest of their lives.I’m truly surprised you didn’t tell the couple to stand their ground.
— DON’T BACK DOWNDEAR ABBY: Why should the bride put her hopes and dreams on the back burner just so the moms can impress their friends and associates? Not only does this advice fail to help the dad help his daughter, but it also sends the message to the daughter that her wedding is not really her wedding, it is a stage production the moms are orchestrating for their advantage.— THINK AGAINDEAR ABBY: The advice for the hijacked wedding plans should have been for the bride to tell these two mothers to let the bride plan the wedding of her dreams, not theirs.
I am assuming the bride can afford to pay for her small wedding.She can still include these mothers in something special.
— ONCE IN A LIFETIMEDEAR READERS: In the first line of my response to Doting Dad, I agreed that the daughter should have the wedding she wants.In retrospect, it’s clear I should have ended my answer there!If one of the moms had written in to complain about the intimate wedding the bride had planned, I’m sure I would have told her in no uncertain terms to back off and let the bride have her way.
My apologies to the couple for wavering and siding with those pushy moms.Thank you all for calling me out on this one!** ** **DEAR ABBY: I’ve been ill for almost...