Dear Abby: My grandson wants to call me Mimi but the nickname is already used by his other grandmother
DEAR ABBY: My grandson is 2 and has started to call me “Mimi.” The problem is that his other grandmother chose Mimi for herself.My daughter-in-law is annoyed and does not want him calling me Mimi.
She also doesn’t want me to be called Mom-Mom because he calls her Ma-Ma.Am I wrong to be upset? I’ve been an active caregiver in this child’s life since his birth.
His other Mimi does not live nearby and makes no effort to be in her grandchild’s life — not even by phone.She just uses the term Mimi to sound good to her Facebook friends.I know this is silly, but is it wrong for me to be upset? He needs something simple to call me when we go to playgrounds and can’t find me.
I feel that he can have two Mimis.I grew up with two moms.
— NICKNAME IN THE EASTDEAR NICKNAME: More than one Mimi could be confusing.The most important thing is your relationship with your grandchild, not who has dibs on a certain name.
I suggest you let the other grandmother claim “Mimi” while you collaborate with the little boy on a new nickname for you.If he takes part in the decision, it will be easier for him to remember and a lot more special.DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 12 years and have two stepchildren.
My 37-year-old stepson is the challenging one.He’s the biggest cheapskate I have come across in my entire life.
Although he earns a good living in his profession, he rarely picks up the tab when we go out to dinner or drinks, and he almost never picks up his own tab, either.He seems to expect that we, as parents, are obligated to take care of his expenses.My wife has recently begun picking up his portion, but I find it infuriating that he makes no gesture at all to pay his own way.
Should I just let it go and continue letting his mother pick up his portion (from her separate account), while I continue to stress about it? — CHEAPSKATE’S STEPDAD IN NEW MEXICODEAR STEPDAD: Has your wife asked you not to talk with her son about this? If she hasn’t, have yo...