Dear Abby: My husband put my career at risk by making political endorsements

DEAR ABBY: I went out to run errands, and when I returned home, I found a political sign in our front yard.It seems a candidate asked my husband for a pledge of support, and he agreed to place the sign in our front yard without consulting me.Because of my job, I have always stayed neutral and never publicly endorsed any candidate for political office.

When I expressed concern, my husband laughed at me and told our son, “Mom is worried what others will think.” The issue is that I do not wish to publicly endorse any candidate, and neighbors will assume the person is someone we both endorse (which is not true at all). Is this a form of passive-aggression on my husband’s part, displaying his lack of respect for my privacy? Am I wrong to believe that he has failed to respect the fact that we are a couple? Had he discussed his desire to show support, I would have suggested he wear a button or place a bumper sticker on his personal vehicle.Instead, he placed a sign in front of our house! — FUMING IN PENNSYLVANIADEAR FUMING: Your husband’s unilateral decision to allow the candidate to plant his sign on your lawn may have been made on impulse, without thinking it through.

However, for him to have laughed and made light of your concern in front of your son was disrespectful. In the state where I live, several individuals have confided that clients had made them feel — or told them directly — that if they knew they had voted for a different candidate, they would no longer employ them. Does your husband act unilaterally or belittle you in front of your son when other disagreements arise? If so, you may need to discuss your relationship problem with a licensed marriage and family therapist.DEAR ABBY: My daughter is getting married soon.I purchased my dress for the wedding and sent a picture of it to the groom’s mother.

This past weekend, she went to get hers, and it’s almost the same as mine, just a different color.She didn’t send a picture of her dres...