Dear Abby: My husband shared a bed with a female family friend half his age then he did it again
DEAR ABBY: My 58-year-old husband recently shared a bed in our camper with a 21-year-old family friend.The friend is female.
This happened in my absence.He thinks of her as a “daughter,” and although I’m not concerned about anything inappropriate happening between them, I still feel it was inappropriate.
I expressed my feelings to him and said I didn’t want it to happen again, but it did.He still thinks it’s perfectly fine, but I do not.
What are your thoughts? — INAPPROPRIATE IN THE EASTDEAR INAPPROPRIATE: My thought is that it’s unusual and inappropriate for a 21-year-old woman to share a bed with your husband (more than once!) in light of the fact that you objected.I can’t help but wonder why no other sleeping arrangement was possible, and what her parents (who, I assume, are friends) think about the arrangement.
Perhaps it’s time you had a chat with the young woman about this.You may find it enlightening.DEAR ABBY: A family member — a woman in her 60s — almost certainly has narcissistic personality disorder.
She has caused problems in the family, so much so that some have quit their jobs, sold their homes and moved out of town to get away from her dysfunction.This woman blames others, never apologizes for anything and doesn’t seem to think she has a problem. Having burned all her bridges, she is now moving out of state.
However, she still has ties to the family business.We want her to get the treatment she needs, and we want peace and order restored in our family.
How do families in a similar situation accomplish this? — SURVIVING IN KENTUCKYDEAR SURVIVING: I can tell you how some people in your situation manage.Recognizing that they cannot change the behavior of the disruptive family member, they seek family therapy to learn how to handle their contacts with her.
I hope it helps for you.DEAR ABBY: I would love your thoughts on the protocol, if any, for mentioning the name of a decedent’s very good friend/companion in an obit...