Common marriage habit could quietly destroy your sex life, expert warns

Sexual desire can change over the course of a marriage, particularly with age and major life changes — and research suggests certain lifestyle and relationship factors may also contribute to a lower libido.But changes in desire or frequency do not necessarily mean a couple’s sex life is unhealthy, according to experts.Dr.Anna Elton, a licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical sexologist in Massachusetts, said there is “no medically prescribed number that defines a healthy sex life.”“What’s healthy is whether both partners feel connected, satisfied and respected in their intimate relationship,” she told Fox News Digital.“For some couples, that may mean several times a week, while for others it may be once or twice a month.

The healthiest benchmark is mutual fulfillment.”Rather than comparing their sex lives to those of others, Elton encouraged couples to define what is healthy for their own relationship.“Talk about what feels satisfying, how much time can pass before one or both of you starts feeling disconnected and what your warning signs are,” she said.“Once you’ve agreed on that range, make a commitment to maintain it together.”Elton advised couples not to let too much time pass without “intentionally reconnecting,” as prolonged disconnection can take a toll on the relationship.“If we simply wait until the mood is perfect or the stars align, work, children and everyday responsibilities usually get in the way,” she said.

“Healthy relationships require intention.Both partners should share responsibility for initiating connection and creating the conditions where desire can develop.”For many couples, building careers, raising children, caring for aging parents, managing finances and juggling other responsibilities can demand more of their attention — and they may not realize that the relationship itself has become a low priority.

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