Psychologist reveals 7 ways to take down a narcissist and get the greatest revenge

While it may seem like everyone from your boss to your ex-boyfriend is a flagrant narcissist, an expert is sharing what separates the insufferable from the clinical — and how to neuter their nefarious influence.“95% of my patients are the victims of narcissistic abuse and trauma,” Dr.Susan Spicer, a licensed clinical psychologist, neuropsychology expert, and trauma therapist, told The Post.Spicer explained that while the term narcissist is loosely used to describe someone full of themselves, narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, is a clinical condition in which the person has an inflated sense of self-importance and a relentless need for attention and validation.“It’s a very unique set of behaviors that make a person a narcissist; the hallmarks are gaslighting, manipulation, blame shifting, and avoidance of accountability,” she said.

However, according to Spicer, someone can have narcissistic traits or express narcissistic behaviors and not meet the criteria for NPD.Spicer said that while narcissistic abuse is disturbingly common, seven holy defense strategies render a narcissist unable to deploy their power plays.Still, she said, the goal is ultimately more about immobilization than annihilation.“It’s not about destroying them as a person; it’s about destroying the control right that they have over you.

You dismantle the dynamic by taking your emotional reaction, boundaries, and nervous system.That’s how you win.”Spicer shared that the first move you can make to block a narcissist’s toxicity is to stop feeding them your emotional reactions.She explained that when you offer anger, tears, or pleading in response to a narcissist, the conversation becomes about your reactions rather than their behavior.“Emotional regulation is not submission,” she assured.

“It’s refusing to hand someone the remote control to your nervous system.That’s how you take your power back.”Spicer shared that victims of narcissistic abuse often engage...