Dear Abby: My husband battles addiction I am lonely and in debt

DEAR ABBY: My mom and my wonderful canine companion passed away within six months.My husband has battled addiction for years.

I discovered the extent of it after I had two small children and was ending our marriage.He went to AA, sobered up and was wonderful for the next 10 years.

During that time, we had two more children. We sacrificed enormously to give them everything, including college educations.Now my children rarely speak to me, and one won’t speak to me at all because of politics.

My spouse has returned to his addiction.Grief over losing my two best friends has overwhelmed me.

Although I am terribly lonely, I suffer terrible social anxiety due to a traumatic incident in my teens.Six months ago, I moved into my mother’s home, which is jointly owned by surviving siblings.I love being alone.

I keep myself busy, and I am enjoying the most peace I have ever had in my life.I have been diagnosed with PTSD and have had years of therapy.

I don’t work.My spouse gives me an allowance, but living apart has resulted in my being in debt. I just want to be left alone, but my spouse controls the purse strings.

He doesn’t mind the separation because it allows him to continue his addiction.Everything I pursued in my life — marriage, career, family — has amounted to nothing.

At 62, I’m tired of trying.I take medicine.

My internist knows of the trauma I suffered and is good at staying on top of my mental health.Is my desire to be alone with my pets and limited social interaction OK? — UNSETTLED IN TEXASDEAR UNSETTLED: You state that you and your husband are separated, and that he controls the purse strings.

It’s time to talk with a family law attorney about what your financial picture would look like if you were to divorce.I wouldn’t want to live alone at 62, but if that’s the lifestyle you prefer, I won’t judge.DEAR ABBY: My wife’s family holds gatherings several times a year for various holidays.

I’m always invited and warmly welcomed...